Moving in with your significant other is a huge and exciting step in your relationship, but it also comes with some stress. First and foremost, you have to decide where to live. Your new apartment should suit both of your lifestyles, and each person must feel satisfied with the choice.
However, this may not happen unless you find a way to compromise. As you start apartment hunting, take a look at these tips for solving your differences and picking the perfect place:
Settle on a Location
Your first step to finding a new apartment is figuring out where you and your significant other want to live. Many people try to settle close to work, family, friends or school, though those things could be in different areas for each of you. If you want to live in one neighborhood and they want to live in another, try these problem-solving strategies to meet in the middle:
Priorities: Both of you should write out your neighborhood priorities. For example, you might want to be close to work and they could want to live by public transportation. Once you have your priorities listed in order from most to least important, look for neighborhoods that can satisfy the things that mean the most to both of you.
Create a Case: If you’re going to fight for a certain location, you should have a good reason. Tell your partner why living somewhere means so much to you and be sure to listen to them in return. You may find that their reason for wanting to live somewhere is more important than you initially thought.
Meet in the Middle: Find a neighborhood that’s literally in the middle. If you want to be near family and they want to live close to the office, look at a map and find places that are in between the two locations.
Establish a Budget
Budget is a huge part of selecting a new apartment, and you and your significant other should be able to afford the unit you ultimately choose. Before you go apartment hunting, have a serious talk about finances and discover what you can and can’t afford. Keep that number in mind when looking for a new place.
You might find something slightly outside of your price range that one person loves and the other is iffy about. Have a chat and see if you can compromise on the issue. Whoever makes the most money could cover the difference in rent money. Generate suggestions and offer them to each other. Listen and consider the other person’s point of view, but ultimately come to an understanding where you have a shared opinion.
Ideally, your apartment will have the second-floor view you want and the proximity to transpiration your partner desires. However, you can’t always get both. Use the list of priorities, reasons you want certain features and meet in the middle strategies you used to pick a neighborhood to help you select the right apartment.
Try to find a unit that meets at least some of both of your needs—one person shouldn’t get everything they want while the other gets nothing.