Whether or not you should live with your bestie is a broad subject that doesn’t have one right answer. Because people are different and relationships are all unique, you can’t look at an example of best friend roommates and let that guide your decision.
Examine the relationship you have with your BFF to decide whether living together is a wise decision. Here are a few pros and cons to consider:
Pros of Living With Your Bestie
You Know Them: You know your best friend’s habits inside and out, which will minimize surprises when you live together. For example, you realize that they’re cranky if they haven’t eaten or that they have great design taste. Living together is simple in that you’ll know they’re only being mean because they’re hungry. When you move in with someone unfamiliar, their little habits or moods could seem like a personal attack.
It’s Fun: You and your best friend have a good time when you’re together, and living in the same apartment will be a blast! You can watch your favorite movies, eat meals at the same time or just generally hang out. You’re much less likely to feel bored or lonely when you can walk across the hall and knock on your bestie’s bedroom door.
Communication is Easier: Communicating with someone you know and love is easier than talking to a stranger. You’ll be less afraid of conflict with your best friend, knowing they will love you even if you nag them about dishes. You’ll also be more likely to express your needs (such as having alone time) and share a concern (the fridge needs cleaning).
Cons of Living With Your Bestie
You Know Them: Sometimes, knowing your best friend’s habits is what convinces you to choose another roommate. For example, if you know your BFF is a neat freak and you’re messy, you probably are aware that living together would be unwise. You have different day-to-day habits that conflict and could cause you to resent each other. If you know you’re incompatible, do the right thing and tell your bestie you need to find different roommates.
Too Much Time Together: It’s fun to live with a person you enjoy spending time with, but you could end up feeling smothered. Since you already do everything together, living apart might be a good idea. It allows you to focus on yourself and expand your horizons. However, if you and your best friend are good at giving each other space and seeing other people, rooming together might be a great option.
Communication is Too Easy: Just like you fight with your family, you’re bound to argue with your best friend. It’s great knowing that they’ll love you no matter what, but getting into screaming matches over the dishes isn’t healthy for your relationship. If conflict between you two is brutal, then you should get some space. But if you can hash out your problems with love and respect, then you’ll love living with your BFF.
Have you lived with your best friend? Tell us about it in the comments!